However we try to fight it, disappointment happens. People, things, life in general will disappoint us. The question is, how do you handle it?
Is your reaction like Otto’s (in one of the best movies ever made kids. A Fish Called Wanda. Yeah, I know it’s ancient from your point of view, but it’s still excellent!)
Or do you just collapse, get overwhelmed, unable to move?
Whatever your reaction, you have to get over it. Sorry, that’s just the way it is.
Of course you can wallow in the feeling for a while, maybe shoot some innocent cabinet or chop a table to firewood (kicking a chair always helps!) but in the end you have to deal with it.
But how to get over it?
If it’s a person who has disappointed you, you have to decide what to do. Do you take the issue up, talk it through, try to fix something that needs fixing, give the person a cold shoulder, dump that relationship..?
If it’s a person that is important and close to you, you should try to get through it. Talk it out, listen to what the other person has to say, maybe some asking and giving for forgiveness would be in order..?
Although, of course this depends on what kind of disappointment it concerns. If you were deceived, betrayed badly – then the forgiveness part may be more difficult
If it’s a person that isn’t that important to you, you can decide whether you want and need to have someone like that in your life – someone who disappoints you. If it’s a one-time thing, you might think it through thoroughly – everyone makes mistakes, so you might give the person another chance. Or not, it might be easier to get rid of people like that. If they disappoint you once, they might do it again. Your choice.
And if it’s life in general that disappoints you – well, you’re shit out of luck. There’s no one to take your rage out on. So you did not win millions in the lottery, get that dream job in the Bahamas or manage to lose that extra weight from Christmas holidays. Yeah, too bad. Get over it.
How do you handle disappointment?