Usually meant as an insult, but not a bad piece of advice though. Unfortunately it usually entails a notion that what you have/do isn’t up to everyone else’s standards and that you’d need to make some drastic changes, and soon.

However, the content and the quality of your life don’t have to be defined by others. So even if the suggestion (well, more like a demand) to get a life is a good one, you’re the one who can define what it will look like.

Telling someone that they need to get a life also means that the things you do with your existence isn’t considered as contributing to the greater good, useful or profitable. But these definitions tell more about the speaker than the actual situation.

Often the order to get a life means that you should give up your obsession with collecting used Coke bottle caps or your interest in 70’s TV programs in the DDR. Or that you spend your time either playing Clash of Clans or have a completely second life in Second Life, and for some reason shouldn’t.
Like those things would be something that stops you from having a real life. But what if those things are your life? What’s wrong with that?

Well, like Dr. Phil says when people ask if something is normal: “If what you’re doing is interfering with your life … then it’s not normal”.

So if what you do does NOT interfere with your life as you know it, or gives feelings of happiness or contentment, who’s to say that’s not a good enough life and demand that you’d need to get another one?

Anything that stops you from having a fulfilled life is of course bad for you. You have to be the one that defines what is good and what is bad for you. If collecting gossip about Kim Kardashian makes you happy, and you don’t break any laws or hurt anyone by doing it – it’s your life, your time, your choice.

So next time someone tells you to get a life, you can just say “Thanks, got one, a good one!”

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