…all the oxygen out in its vicinity.
So how to be around, or <gasp> to be in a relationship with a negative person (a Negative from this point onwards)?
A Negative doesn’t necessarily know, notice or care that s/he is a Negative. Maybe they see themselves as realists, surrounded by imbeciles who don’t understand how serious life is and that Pollyanna attitude isn’t enough to save the day?
Negatives need a lot of energy to keep the negativity up and running, and the fuel is other people, preferably positive people. A Positive is an endless source of energy, so the Negatives often cozy up to those kinds of people. And why wouldn’t they – their own endless source of energy just within their reach!
Then again, if a Positive has an endless source of energy, why not use one to feed on? It’s a very good deal for the Negative. But for the Positive? Maybe a good deal too – if you think that a Positive can turn (given enough time) a Negative into a Positive.
Changing a Negative is probably a Mission Impossible (and any attempts to do that will self destruct in five seconds). And should you even try?
If it, the negativity, doesn’t bother you, then why would you. But if it bothers you, should you still try?
If you’re in a relationship with a Negative, you have to decide how to deal with the situation. Most people don’t want to end a relationship over a silly little thing like a Negative taking up all the space in the relationship. But you have to protect yourself against that dark, sucking black hole. It’s can be very tempting, and easy, to give into negativity. Why wouldn’t it – look at the state the world is in!
So you have to be vigilant at all times!
If you have a Negative in your close circle, you have to decide if you want to have them around. Friends, acquaintances, parents, colleagues – those are easier to dump than a partner. If it’s okay for you to be around people who complain about everything and see things in a negative light – so be it (Jedi)!
But remember, Negatives can be hazardous to your health – negativity eats your brain cells and it’ll cause you to watch mindless reality shows, gain tons of weight, get rabies and ebola and eventually die.
So, maybe it’s better to make sure Negatives don’t take over your life? Stay Positive!