.. I know what I’m doing.
My favorite line from the ancient TV-show Sledge Hammer. Yeah, back in the 80¨s, just after the dinosaurs had died out.
People usually did trust him and in the end.. well, he saved the day. Sort of. Or probably his sidekick Dori Doreau was the one who actually saved the day.
But should we take a person by their word when they ask us to trust him/her?
“Trust me, I’m a doctor”. Sure.. you’ll just stick me with huge needles and feed me unnecessary pills.
Trust is a very delicate thing. It’s like a china plate or cup: when it’s broken, the pieces can be glued back together but you’ll always see the fractures. Then it depends on you if you let the fractures affect you.
Trust can be built back, but it’s a lot of work, and it requires that both/all parties are willing to do the work.
Trust has to be earned, it’s something you can demand or that you’re entitled to. Building trust has no schedule no deadline, no time limit. It’s built up gradually and can be shattered in seconds.
Trust is an inner individual process that can’t be controlled. Someone has to decide that you are worthy of their trust. That decision is up to them and it has to come from the certainty they have within.
The person you want to trust you has to want to trust you.
You can, and of course should, do everything in your power to prove that you’re trustworthy: by being honest, doing what you have promised and at the time you promised. You can keep your promises; that’s your part of the deal. If that earns you the trust, good!
Trust me, I know what I’m talking about!