Threesome

Question: “Dear Hotpotato, I have a question for you: How to tell my wife that I would like to have a threesome with her and her best friend? I have been dreaming about this for as long as I can remember. My wife isn’t that much into sex, so I would imagine that she wouldn’t like the idea.

I have already slept with her best friend and she is thrilled about the idea of having sex with my wife and me. Needles to say we haven’t said anything to my wife yet. How do you suggest we approach this matter? Please help me with this! I do love my wife but as I already said she doesn’t like sex that much. I would imagine a threesome would help her loosen up. Jack”


Hot Potatoe: Dear selfish, egoistic and chauvinistic Jack!

So you need help getting laid? I’d like to start by telling you what I really think of your idea, but then again, I’ve promised to help, so here goes.

A threesome – every man’s dream. But for some reason usually with one man and two women, as there are women who dream about it the other way around, one woman and two men exclusively for her.

I doubt you’ll be able to get your wife to warm up to the idea of a threesome unless you first deal with the matter you mentioned: “My wife isn’t that much into sex”. Why isn’t she into sex? Have you tried to ask her what the matter is? And is she just not into sex with YOU?

Have you had a good sex-life before and she has suddenly turned cold or has she ever been interested in it? If things have been okay before, something has happened or changed that that should be the starting point for you – to try to unravel the reason for this.

If however your wife has never been interested in sex, I’m not sure that starting to warm her up with multiple sex is the best possible idea. Instead you should try to get close to her (mentally!! Not yet physically) and try to find out what she’d like/not like. I can understand YOU can imagine it would loosen her up…

Only after you have gotten your wife to like sex with you should you contemplate on suggesting something extra for her. Don’t be surprised if you get hit in the head when taking up the issue. Especially you should leave out the part of her best friend and you already having sex. You should start to approach the subject by general questions “what do you think of sex with a woman, how would you feel about a threesome”.

I’m still not sure how she’d react to a suggestion of having sex with you and her so-called best friend. (So-called because she is not your wife’s best friend. Best friends do not sleep with friends’ husbands).

I wouldn’t keep my hopes up with this matter though, I rather see something completely else looming in the horizon (argument, row, divorce?), but good luck with the try! Maybe your wife will get excited about the idea and start having threesomes all the time (you excluded though!)

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